Iman Shati & Ayfer Abed Aljabar: It’s More than Refugee Resettlement

Iman Shati & Ayfer Abed Aljabar: It’s More than Refugee Resettlement

It is often noted, to the point where it now seems cliche, that the news media is driven to report sensational articles and give weight to negative stories because “what bleeds, reads.” Such reporting leads to an unequal balance that creates a perception of reality that is severely skewed, often reinforcing stereotypes and prejudices about the subjects of such reporting.

Muslims are well aware of this as their religion is constantly in the headlines, mostly in regards to violence and chaos. Islam is often portrayed as what is “wrong with religion,” as a “religion of terror,” a religion that “oppresses minorities and women,” and is incompatible with “Democracy.” Rare is the opportunity where coverage is given to the Muslim doctors opening up free medical clinics to serve those without healthcare, the Muslims activists who with a deep belief in their religion as a liberating force have striven to depose dictators and forge governments that reflect the will of the people, the Muslims opening up shelters and food pantries for the homeless and hungry, the Muslim aid organizations helping in disaster relief, the Muslims countering and intervening to end inner-city violence, and the list can go on and on.

Indeed there are many Muslims who take the Quran’s advice (83:26) about “competing and striving” to outdo one another in “good works” very seriously.

One reason that we don’t hear as much about these Muslims making a difference, apart from the biases inherent in the media landscape is because such acts are motivated by faith, to reach a closeness with the Creator, a matter that is private. As the Quran notes those of pure intention do their charitable deeds not out of any need for “gratitude or reward” from humans, but rather out of a love of God, “for His Countenance.” (76:9)

In this regard we have the story of two amazing Iraqi-American Muslim women, Iman Shati and Ayfer Abed AlJabar. The media tells us these two should be enemies, Iman is Shia’ and Ayfer is Sunni, but they are best friends. These two women have taken it upon themselves to help resettle Iraqi refugees, to help them find work and keep their homes and they have made amazing strides.

The following article in RNS also points to how appreciative these two women are of having the opportunity to use their skills here in the USA to service those in need in the Iraqi refugee community. It is a testament to the plurality and promise of America.

by Omar Sacirbey

LYNN, Mass. (RNS) Iman Shati is a Shiite Muslim who wears the hijab and was a housewife in Iraq. Ayfer Abed Aljabar is a Sunni Muslim who doesn’t wear the hijab and worked as a lawyer in Iraq.

While their backgrounds are different, the thing they have in common is a shared commitment to help fellow Iraqi refugees find work and keep their homes. They’ve also become fast friends.

Using money she had saved, Shati opened the Iraqi & Arab Community Association here last March, about 10 miles north of Boston, where she works as a caseworker. Aljabar, also using her own savings, last year launched the Iraqi American Community Center in Lowell, about 30 miles north of Boston.

Working separately but in common cause together, they’ve helped dozens of Iraqi refugee families, challenged the conventional wisdom about Muslim women and overcome doubters.

Aljabar fled Iraq with her family after assassins seeking her husband mistakenly killed his cousin. When she arrived in hardscrabble Lowell, she was surprised that the small Iraqi ex-pat community hadn’t opened any Iraqi businesses or service groups.

“When I asked them, why don’t you have any Iraqi restaurants, or associations, they told me my imagination is very big,” said Aljabar, 32.

In America, both women found the opportunity — and the need — to become leaders, something that would have been much less likely in the patriarchal climate back home. Many Middle Eastern women go to university but never enter the workforce. Those who do rarely end up in leadership jobs.

“I had a lot of dreams in Iraq, but I never had a chance to make something of my dreams. When I came here to the United States, the first day I had a chance to do things. This is the difference between my country and America,” said Shati, 47, who graduated from university in Iraq but stayed home to raise her three sons.

Shati, who came with her family after her husband was kidnapped for five days, said the men in her community have been supportive.

“They’re proud, because an Iraqi woman established this,” she said. “They say,’She worked hard to make this agency.’ All of them support me.”

Shati also likes that in America, Muslim women attend mosque more often than in Iraq and other Muslim countries. In Islam, men are required to attend Friday prayers, but women are not.

“When I go to the masjid here, I feel like I make my relationship with God … more strong. The masjid reminds me more about my religion,” Shati said.

Shati and Aljabar help refugees get health insurance, enroll them in citizenship and English classes, accompany them to driver tests, and give them money to pay the rent, buy food, diapers, clothes and other necessities. Aljabar’s husband retrofitted several donated laptop computers with Arabic letter keys and software. Both groups also try to educate Americans about Iraqi culture.

They often use their own funds, but have also gotten help — such as discounted office space — from other agencies, and hope to catch the attention of donors who will keep the services afloat. Both women estimate they have worked with about 50 families, or about 150 people since opening their offices. Shati said nearly half the families she worked with were living in shelters.

Many resettled adults still struggle with English, which makes it hard to land a job. Their children, however, seem destined for a brighter future.

Take Tiba Faraj, an outgoing and confident junior at Classical High School in Lynn, where she has excelled as a student, made many friends, and has dreams of becoming an engineer or businesswoman.

“There’s a huge difference between here and my country. There are so many options of what we can do,” said Faraj, 17, who came here with her family after five gunmen shot into her father’s car at a traffic light, hitting him in the leg five times.

Faraj’s parents credit Shati’s agency with helping them find affordable housing when they arrived, which made it easier for Faraj and her younger brothers to excel in school.

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2 Comments

  1. Greg Jr.

    I imagine do we blame the media for giving us all this negativity or do we blame ourselves because this is what we want to see.

    More importantly, I personally am happy to come across this article and this site because, well, the site chose to cover something positive. Articles like these should be in the headlines more often.

    Keep up the good work!

  2. Naqushbandi dhikr

    This is a good thing that these two women can see past their differences to make a positive impact on their surroundings- may Allah grant them recompense on The Day of Judgement